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The title above is sort of intended to be ironic, so please don’t assume that this is a pep talk for the masses. If there was some secret formula for encouraging motivation that worked every time then whoever figured it out would be a billionaire.
Self-help is a massive industry and many people who contribute to it don’t necessarily have professional credentials in the area that they address. Does that matter? Not always. There are people who have a genuine desire to help people and often experience is more valuable that book learning, as it were.
I’ve known people who were big advocates for self-help and I’ve been recommended several products in this area by people who have found it a really helpful tool.
The difficulty I have is that often by the time I’m in a place where these products might need to be called upon, I’m often so far gone that the cynic in me rules all of my thought processes.
I am neither complete pessimist or optimist. I try my best to remain in the latter mindset as often as possible, but sometimes I do slip into the former and for a person like myself that can be a very taxing experience.
Once my thoughts slide into the negative they can often remain there for days becoming increasingly obsessive until I’m ready to jack the whole lot in. I mean why the hell do we bother? What is the point in all of this? Why not take the easy route that seems to work so well for so many?
Those inbetween the two states are often seen as realists and this is always where I identify myself. Working hard is necessary because no one gets anything for nothing; there is always a price. Coasting along is easy, but on that route nothing truly incredible will ever happen and you will remain unremarkable.
So what is the point in all of this? The point is just this, whoever we are, at whatever given time it may be, you have to accept one thing: you are who you are and you control your own destiny. Often things don’t work out the way that we expect them to and if anyone can find an avenue of help to make their life easier then they should grasp that chance. But self-help, no matter how expensive it is, needs one valuable component. The most important central component has to be in place, and receptive, before it has any hope of succeeding: you.
If you have family and friends around you cheering then that’s great, congratulations. But none of them can achieve your dream for you. The work must be yours and you have to want it, breathe it, visualise it. See your goal, keep moving forward, and begin to consider your next goal.
Giving up is always an option, but it leaves you with a what if…? Winning and losing, failing and succeeding, it’s all a state of mind propelled by you. With every breath you take you are succeeding in living, but is that enough? Do you want to survive and nothing more, or do you want to strive for greatness?
Neither choice is right or wrong but it is just that, a choice and only you can make it for yourself.

Good luck on your adventures,

xSx

 

Manic. Manic.
I woke up to do with a list of things to do. I did those. Did some writing, then had task after task interrupting. Anyway, I’m still bashing away at the keyboard but I wanted to let you know I’ve set up a poll. Check it out on Facebook or on my website.
I promise you that every vote will count. So please make sure you make a choice… though I don’t envy you!

Good luck on your adventures,

xSx

Shall I keep you in suspense...?

So Rivals ON AIR is out. Explicit Instruction is the next title I’ll release. But what now…? I’m trying to decide what project to focus on next and I find myself torn – romantic suspense or romantic comedy?
I’ve kind of got myself into a groove with the suspense titles and they are a lot more fun to write. Lots of sex and violence and drama… certainly in the case of Explicit Instruction. I think I’ll have to attach an advisory notice :p If you get yourselves over to my Facebook page you’ll get a preview of the Explicit Instruction cover. The Mistake Me not sequel will be released summer/autumn 2014 depending on workload.
I want to say a special thank you to Ivy Emily for reviewing on Amazon.co.uk. Reviews don’t come easily, and I was humbled by her enjoyment.
Every writer wants to share their thoughts, their ideas, their stories, and it can be overwhelming trying to get them onto paper (so to speak). We can get blinkered. This is exactly the reason that it’s important to distance yourself in the edit. Put it down and walk away – going back to it weeks or months later can be an eyeopener.
I won’t intrude upon your time anymore. Everyone enjoy your adventures and look forward to the next one I cook up for you.

Thanks
xSx